To find out if your relationship is as healthy as you deserve, ask yourself does the person you are dating:
- Get very jealous or possessive?
- Accuse me of flirting or cheating?
- Constantly check up on me or make me check in?
- Try to control what I wear or how I look?
- Make me feel that I can’t do anything right?
- Blame me for their problems?
- Make me feel like no one else would want me?
- Threaten to hurt me, my friends, or my family?
- Threaten to hurt themselves because of me?
- Threaten to destroy my things?
- Break things or throw things to scare me?
- Grab, push, shove, choke, punch, slap, or hurt me in any way?
- Yell, scream or put me down in front of others?
- Pressure or force me into having sex or going farther than I want to?
You should have the right to:
- Refuse a date.
- Suggest activities.
- Refuse activities, even if your date is excited about them.
- Have your own feelings and be able to express them.
- Say you think your partner is wrong about something or that his/her actions are unfair or inappropriate.
- Refuse to lend money.
- Say “no” to sex or change your mind. You can refuse sex with anyone, anytime, for any reason.
- Have friends and hang out with them without your partner. If you have been denied any of these rights, or if you have gone through any of the experiences described above, your relationship is not as healthy as you deserve. Click here to find out how to get help.